Nothing strengthens authority so much as silence.
— Leonardo da Vinci.
Many of us walked to this spot to take pictures. When we got there, for a couple of seconds, we forgot what we were supposed to do. That silence was unforgettable.
(I wish I were taller. I asked my husband to lift me so I could take a better photo. I guess I was heavier than I thought 😉
We were taught to obey authority figures like our teachers. When we saw our teachers in hallways, we would respectfully bow to them.
When I was senior in high school, one day after receiving the exam paper back from my Chinese teacher, I noticed that she had deducted several points from one of my answers.
We were asked to use the modern Chinese language (白話文) to rewrite a classical-Chinese paragraph (文言文). I asked my teacher what I did wrong. She said she didn’t think I had translated the paragraph correctly.
When I told one of my classmates what had happened. She said she, too, had translated the paragraph like I did and lost several points.
“But, that was how she taught us,” my classmate said. She then showed me the class note she had taken. Sure enough, word by word, we translated the paragraph like we were taught.
I showed my teacher my classmate’s note. My teacher said, “That wasn’t what I said.”
I knew my classmate and I were right that our teacher did teach us to translate the paragraph as we did. At the same time, I knew very well that we couldn’t win the battle (wish I had an iPhone at that time so we could video tape…). I calmly walked away. In a strange way, I wasn’t bothered by this at all. I guess when you are sure that you are right, you really don’t care what others think.
When I arrived home that day, I saw my sister Karin sitting by her desk. I told Karin what had happened and asked, “Who do you think has the right translation? My teacher or me?”
Knowing the fact that how easy it is for us to blindly trust our teachers, I switched my teacher’s new translation with mine (which was her previous translation).
Karin thought for a while, and said, “I think your teacher is right.”
“Ah-ha, I knew I was right.”
“Wait a second, I said I agreed with your teacher!”
“Well, I knew you would take TEACHER’s side, so I had switched our translations around. There!” I said, smiling big. I didn’t blame Karin. Even then, I understood how easy it was to agree with those authority figures.
In my life, I have been called weak. I may not be brave, but I‘m not weak. Many times, I choose to remain silent because I know how easy it is for any of us to make a mistake. I understand very well that none of us is perfect. And it is that understanding, quite often, keeps me quiet.
Thanks for visiting my blog.
Maybe this is why I have always loved the bumper sticker: Question Authority. I think you are brave and strong and smart!
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Thanks, Lois. I like that bumper sticker! At least one should get a second opinion when in doubt. 😉 When we traveled to Ireland many years ago, we missed our connecting flight at London airport because a guy in uniform at customs waiting area told us we had to pick our checked-in luggage and sent them through security check again. Well, we waited at luggage claim area and our luggage never showed up; they were shipped to Ireland directly. Oh well… I should read this bumper sticker earlier. 😉
Good night.
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I am much like you Helen….in some respects. I fear people who appear to be in a position of power. I’m slowly getting over it. Did you daughter have fun this weekend?
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Thanks, Cee. Yes, we definitely came from the same planet!
Last time I texted my daughter, she was marching. 😉 She is on her way back to Ca. From what I saw on TV, it was a huge crowd, and quite exciting. Silly me, I kept hoping I would see her on TV. 😉
Good night.
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That was very brave of you to talk to the teacher. I don’t think I would’ve had the courage to do it.
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Thanks, Yinglan. By the time I was senior at high school, I’ve already figured out that if I asked questions without showing any offending emotion (like angry…) , I would be pretty safe. 😉
Have a nice evening.
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You’re welcome, have a nice evening to you too.
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The silent ones are sometimes the wisest!
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Thank you, Richard. “Sometimes” was the key word, right? 😉
I like your smiling face. I wonder how many people had smiled back without thinking…
Have a wonderful evening.
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You too!
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So true that silence does not mean weak. It often means you’re being respectul and giving others a chance to listen. Bit cheeky of you there in school to switch translations, lol.
By the way, did your husband really lift you so you can take a good shot 😊
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Thanks, Mabel. Nope. My husband didn’t even try. He didn’t think we could avoid hand shaking if we did. I think he was talking about his hands. Ha.
It’s interesting that seeing how quiet I was, sometime, my daughter would speak up to protect me. And that warmed my heart. 😉
Have a nice day!
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It is amazing how we are taught to respect authority, often without consideration of right and wrong. Never really worked for me. 🙂
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LOL. Had I gotten to know you when I was young, maybe I would be much braver now.
Have a wonderful day.
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Wise quote, Lake Louise (?) and a story in a brace new world. Question everything for silence kills. Kudos to you, Helen and good night. Perpetua
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Thanks Perpetua. It’s a stop at Glacier National Park (on U.S, side). Lake Louise is very pretty. It’s easier to take photos there 😉
Happy Chinese New Year!
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Oh Yah! Gung Hay Fat Choy, Helen.
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We are of a generation of women that respected authority and – for the most part – didn’t openly question or challenge decisions that we believed were clearly wrong or unfair. Even worse, we were usually admonished if we did. Then it takes us the rest of our lives to break out of the shell it imposed. No wonder women of a ‘certain age’ get feisty as they get older 😉
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Thanks, Joanne.
>> Then it takes us the rest of our lives to break out of the shell it imposed.
😉 It’s better late than never 😉
>> No wonder women of a ‘certain age’ get feisty as they get older
LOL. Yes, we do 😉
Happy Chinese New Year!
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Hi H- well it takes courage to be silent – and it takes class and character to do so with such a good spirit and outlook.
and ha – on switching the notes – self-fulfilling prophecy to where, as you noted, we tend to assume the teacher is correct.
and I love the bits of light-hearted humor you weave into posts (i.e. heavier than you thought….)
🙂
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Thanks, Yvette. Life is interesting. First, I was quiet; then I started talking more; then I stopped talking… who know what’s next. But, no matter I was silent or not, I do like my life. 😉
Happy Chinese New Year.
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happy chinese new year to you too –
but I am still waiting for a red envelope – ahem….
kidding
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So wonderfully written with strength and truth. It touched us on many levels. We found the comment about your husband lifting you humorous. You have a great range.
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Thank you so much. Please do come back… it’s so nice to get to know you.
Happy Chinese New Year!
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Thank you and Happy Chinese New Year to you!
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Great Essay, Helen. Thanks for writing it.
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Thanks, Robin. Your encouragement means a lot to me.
Happy Chinese New Year.
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Agree! Silence is powerful!
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Thanks, Lady Oscar.
Happy Chinese New Year!
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Some people can scary us and make us feel weak, you are not alone. Happy new year Helen!
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Thanks, Elizabeth.
Maybe because of them, I became stronger? I don’t know. All I know is that I am stronger than before and I am happy. (I know you are strong, too. 😉
Happy Chinese New Year!
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That was extremely overcome of you to converse with the instructor. I don’t think I would’ve had the valor to do it….
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Thanks, Sariska. I tried to be VERY polite when I do that, and it worked quite well 😉
Have a wonderful day.
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We were taught to obey to elderly and authorities since, that’s a part of our culture, hopefully things are gradually changing
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Thanks, Edward. I think things have been changed, but I am not sure it’s better. When I see young kids shouting at their parents, I can’t help wondering if this is what we really want to see. ;-(
Have a great day.
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Perhaps you are right. Nowadays the pendulum swings from one extreme to the other
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This is a gorgeous shot, Helen. Which place is this?
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Thanks, Suyash. It’s Glacier Park on the U.S. side. I still wish I were a little taller 😉
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Hehehehe…I have never been to Glacier. Hoping to visit this year sometime. Let’s see
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Helen, this is such a gorgeous shot. Beautiful scene, I am a sucker for this kind of scene. Ha, I would love to get taller to be able to shoot from different perspective as well!
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Thanks, Adhika. I am glad you understand my problem. Ha.
Maybe someone can invent something like those selfie stick for regular cameras…
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